Being Anal Ready: How To Prepare Yourself For Anal Sex
Anal sex is the best sex!
Our culture has stigmatized anal penetration and in doing so, scared off hordes of people who might be interested in it. As of late, the media (specifically TV) has loudly been making the case for the pleasures and positive benefits of anal sex. It is one of the most popularly searched terms on many porn sites. People love watching it or at least thinking about it. That’s great! Now, you want to try it or perhaps have always wanted to do anal; but, you didn’t know how to properly prepare for it. Lucky for you, I’m sort of an expert. I have some trusted tips to get you anal ready in no time.
First things first, don’t rush. I highly, highly, highly recommend you experiment alone for your first time. You don’t want a partner pressuring you or accidentally hurting you while you’re in the midst of love making. In an ideal setting, you’ll be able to draw yourself a nice relaxing bath. If you don’t have a tub, take an extra-long shower. Use scents that are relaxing and comforting like lavender or vanilla. De-stressing yourself is the best way to prepare for anal sex. Let your muscles loosen and the anxiety of your day slips away. I experimented with anal for the first time in high school. My parents were out of town and I sat in the bath for over an hour. I started to get excited and began to massage the area around my hole. A great way to test your readiness is to do so in the bath or in the shower. The warmth of the water and a relaxed state will cause your sphincter to loosen. If you have some silicon based lube handy, that will also help you out. Slow and steady wins the race here. Take it slow and never force anything.
The main objection I hear from folks is that they feel like they have to use the restroom whenever they try anal. That is almost always psychosomatic! But, if you want to go the extra mile to prepare for anal, try douching – do this before you take a bath or shower and after you’ve cleaned yourself out. You will be confident nothing gross will happen. As I said, this is almost always in your head. If it makes you feel better, go for it!
So you’ve taken a long luxurious bath and you move to your bed. Light some candles, and dim the lights. Place a towel under your hips and lay on it facing the ceiling. Get yourself aroused first. When preparing for anal sex this is the second most important step. When you’re sexually excited, the pain and pleasure receptors in your brain kind of get screwy which is absolutely fantastic! That’s why people like rough sex or biting during it. Once you’re at peak arousal, try massaging your buttocks, then move closer and closer to your anus. If you have some lube, it’s time to bring it out. Saliva will work as well, in a pinch. Be sure to lube your finger(s) and the area around your hole. The more lube the better. It will make things go really smoothly. Gently and slowly slide a finger inside yourself. Remember to breath! Do not hold your breath as it will cause you to tense up. If it hurts or feels uncomfortable, hold your finger in place and listen to your breathing. You’ll either start to feel comfortable as the sensation normalizes or you might not be aroused or relaxed enough yet. If the latter is true, slowly remove your finger and give yourself a break. Massage yourself until you feel better. Apply more lube and try again. If you’re still not feeling it, it is time to change positions. Personally, I enjoy anal sex best when I’m lying on my side with my knees raised up to my chest. Try that, or perhaps getting on all fours with your legs spread wide. Experiment with different positions and find the one that is most comfortable for you.
This is one of the best tips I ever got when preparing for anal…
As you insert your finger(s), toy, penis in your anus, slightly push out. This sounds counterintuitive, but by pressing out with your anus, you actual relax the muscles further. Now, do not do this super hard. A light downward press with the muscles of the lower abdomen will do. It really helps when you’re getting started and things can feel foreign and weird.
You’ve got a finger in there and it feels pretty good! Woo! Now, both men and women have prostate glands. Massaging this will give you immense pleasure. To find it, slowly and gently curve your finger upwards toward the front of your pelvis. You’ll feel a soft, sensitive mass that likes to be touched. Play with it. Most people achieve orgasm by masturbating their vagina or penis. But, others can cum by stimulating their prostate. Don’t force anything, see what will happen first. Now, you can add another finger or a slim toy and see what feels good (or maybe fabulous!) for yourself. After getting to know your rear parts a little better, you might feel comfortable enough to engage in anal sex with a partner.
Prepare for anal the same way you did when you tried it by yourself. Trust is the key here. Make sure you’re with a person you are comfortable talking and coaching. You’ll want him/her to be very attentive to your needs. Don’t force yourself or feel embarrassed. You have to take your time and a good friend or partner will understand. Be vocal. Be assertive. Don’t bully yourself into doing anything you do not want to. You may want to preserve anal play as a solo act. That’s cool too!
There you have it! These tips should help you to get yourself ready for anal!
Everyone’s anus is different and therefore everyone’s experience with anal sex will also be different. Be true to yourself and to your body. If it doesn’t feel good, slow down and try something different. I think anal sex is something that gets better the more you do it. Practice, practice, practice. You will begin to familiarize yourself with how it feels and how to make it feel incredible. Go forth and enjoy all the pleasures available to you!
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